Spring came early this year in Spokane. It is usually around Mother’s Day that I buy the plants for my pots.
As a therapist I am too aware that Mother’s Day is a mixed bag for many. Some of us did not have great relationships with our mothers for whatever reason. As a psychic and medium, I have been able to help others reconnect with their mother after she passed and either communicate with her or understand why she did things the way that she did. I am so aware of how quickly we can loose people in our lives. My mother died expectantly at age 52. I wish I could have gotten over my “attitude” about what I didn’t get or how it should have been before she died.
In the mid 1990’s I did some deep inner work and re-mothered my inner child. Since then I have been helping clients re-mother themselves. I developed a process that I call What’s Wrong Little Girl. This of course could be changed for your inner male child. The process is below.
I wish I had accepted my mother just as she was. We all develop ways of protecting ourselves as we become shaped by our environment. Whether you become a victim, an avenger, withdrawn, or chaotic; we all do the best we can do at the time. It is as adults we have the opportunity to heal the past and be the best we can be in the here and now!
As you heal your own inner child and then re-integrate her back into your adult-Self, you are able to accept and love others, just as they are.
Enjoy the process and feel free to comment on your progress!
Journaling with your Inner Child
1. What’s Wrong Little Girl?
State the situation – Person said this, did this, etc. Respond to her by identifying her feelings.
2. I hear you were afraid, oh, you sound so sad, etc.
She responds with more information because she was heard.
3. Write more of what she has to say.
Ask her what she needs and listen!
4. She may need to go for a walk, to listen to music, take a bath, have a healthy snack.
Give her what she needs and promise her you will take care of her and DO IT!
She will learn to trust you again and soon she will integrate back into your adult Self and all will be so much better!
You can find more healing tools in my Self-Help Toolbox!