Gary Chapman in his book The Five Love Languages teaches us to understand what makes us feel loved and what makes our loved ones feel loved. The five languages are:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Gifts
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch.
Do you have a friend who continually asks for validation? Does this look good? I feel like you never appreciate me.
If your mother’s love language is quality time, spending time with her doing anything would be better than a gift. Unless that is also her love language.
Have you ever noticed someone who responds wildly to receiving gifts? If that is the case, knowing her deeply can help you gift her with small tokens and large surprises.
One of my top love languages is Acts of Service. I felt really loved when a boyfriend built me a fence, another wrote a review for my first book, and another wrote a song about us.
Do you know someone who is always touching you as you walk by? They may stop and rub your shoulders. They feel loved by touching and being touched.
You can take an online test at http://fivelovelanguages.com/ to find out your own love language.
You may find you score high on a few love languages. Let your family and friends know what your love language is and in doing this you may be able to explore theirs as well. You may have two or more scoring similarly. That means you to feel loved in several ways!