I am realistic – I expect miracles.
Wayne W. Dyer
When I was taking classes in Meditation and Healing at the Church of the Divine Man many years ago, they taught about “matching” other people’s energy. An example is, if you are around someone who is angry, you may match him or her and become angry. When you are around someone peaceful, you can match him or her and become peaceful. I have been teaching this in my counseling practice for years and helped clients understand they can change how they feel by becoming aware and making choices.
I remember reading a study in one of my books (which I will find to update this blog) that had three plants. One plant was the control and the plant was watered without any variables. The second plant was watered with water that was held by someone very happy and positive for a period of time. The third plant was watered with water that was held for a period of time by someone who was clinically depressed. Of course, the result was the plant watered by the person who was happy and positve grew the most. The plant watered by the person who was depressed had stunted growth. The control plant grew somewhere in the middle of the others.
Quantum physics has taught us that everything is energy, including humans, and it makes sense we affect each other in subtle and powerful ways. When I feel blue, a little grumpy, I will put on a CD by someone like Wayne Dyer to raise my mood, to shift my energy. Conversely, when I binge on old country music from my childhood, such as listening to Sunday Morning Coming Down by Kris Kristofferson (whose work I love), I have to pick myself up off the floor!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QTJiW_7S2Dk
What inspired me to write this blog today, a re-write from a former blog is I had a conversation with someone yesterday who is thinking of putting his 15 year old in a residential program for mental illness. The child has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) which is treatable and fairly rare. I know this child and it became clear to me that this particular sensitive child would not do well there. The facility has many children who are depressed, and believe me, my heart goes out to them. Putting a child who is not depressed though, one with an anxiety disorder and who is sensitive is not the right move. The child will match the other’s energy and may come out of this long term care program worse than going in.
Whenever you have a situation that you don’t know how to handle, becoming educated is so helpful. I will write another time about OCD, but if you know someone with this disorder, I highly recommend Loving Someone with OCD: Help for you and your Family.
What you can do when you want to get energized when you are feeling low is to find those who you admire or vibrate at a higher level than you do. You will know this by how you feel when you are around them. For instance, sometimes I will watch Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday. When she interviews leaders in spirituality such as Eckhart Tolle or Marianne Williamson, I cannot help but feel more peaceful and hopeful. It is a passive way of shifting how you think and feel. You can match their energy!
My focus in my work for years has been to empower others to access their Essence. My teaching are to assist them to access their own intuition and to realize who they truly are and to manifest their dreams in their lives. You too can match others who lift and elevate you and stay connected to powerful, manifesting energy.
Please take some time to think about who energizes you.
Who helps you become your better Self? Who leads the way and makes it easier for you to excel and manifest your dreams? Think about who it is that drains your energy and leaves you feeling bad about yourself. Sometimes we can’t change who we are around, but we can use those who are motivating and inspiring to bring us back into balance.
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Alana says
I’ve been mulling over exactly how to respond to this post for the last twenty minutes or so. When I am feeling blue, there are two things I will reach for. One is a camera. The other thing is my plants. I get energy from loving my plants. At my office, I can feel plants in distress. Am I imagining that? I do not think so.
Candess M. Campbell, PhD says
What a complement Alana that my post make you contemplate. At least for a thinker like me.
I too agree that we can tell when plants are in distress. I remember a couple years ago when I went to the dentist. He was in a newer three story building with lots of light. I walked in and his office was on the second floor, but my intuition told me I needed to go up to the third floor. As usual, I followed my intuition and it lead me to a large plant in the corner that was dry and desperately needing water. I went out to my car to find a cup and feed the plant some fresh water before going to the dentist. Couldn’t share this experience with the dentist, but happy to share with you! This is a fairly common experience for me.
elly stornebrink says
Also known as ‘entrainment’…an important point…EFT and other energy healing modalities can help this boy deal with and/or heal from his affliction. So sad to hear…I hope they change their mind! <3
Candess M. Campbell, PhD says
Yes Elly, thanks for the input! I have provided them with the EFT information and some valuable online videos on tapping. The issue with OCD and any depressive or anxiety disorders, is the person has to use their tools!
Bonnie Gean says
I believe this is true. You are who you hang with as I always said – and I totally believe that if I am around a bored or lively person – I become stagnant or elated.
I just thought that I had to find new people to hang with because the current individuals in my life are so depressing! No wonder I’ve been in a cloud of funk lately!
Thank you for sharing this message!
Candess M. Campbell, PhD says
Let’s all de-funk Bonnie!