Candess Campbell

The Victim Archetype

June 17, 2016 by @candesscampbell

In the last blog I gave you some information about the Saboteur Archetype and encouraged you to use the information to explore within yourself in the privacy of your journal. Today, I am focusing on the Victim Archetype. This information comes from information from Caroline Myss’ work in her Sacred Contracts book and the classes I took from her on Medical Intuition and Sacred Contracts. I have also added information that I have gained from working as a mental health counselor and chemical dependency professional for over 20 years.

Remember that we all have 4 archetypes that we share. These are the Child, Victim, Saboteur and Prostitute. Each of these archetypes have a positive side to them and with the Victim it is Self-Esteem. This would be the other side of the victim.

In the process of your journey and self-healing, you have to come to terms with your victim self and move beyond this state of being. You can identify your victim, confront the behavior, love and forgive yourself and bring your energy into present time. In fact, unless you can bring at least 80% of your energy into present time, you will not have the power to self-heal. What do I mean by bringing yourself into present time? Watch your thoughts. Do you go off to the future (which can create anxiety) or drift off to the past (which can cause depression) or are you able to be present in the moment?

If you journal, this will give you a great opportunity to explore your inner life journaling from these characteristics. You may want to use my book Live Intuitively: Journal the Wisdom of your Soul when you explore deeper. You can use the Soul Stems, which are writing prompts to take you deeper into your Self!

Victim Archetype

Guardian of Self Esteem

Core issue is whether it is worth giving up your own sense of empowerment to avoid taking responsibility for your independence.

When you don’t stand up for yourself after awhile you no longer can tell the difference whether you are being victimized or not; so either you are being victimized and don’t know it or you are not being victimized, but act as if you are.
The victim archetype helps you decide what you will or will not do; a guardian of personal boundaries.
Lessons associated with the victim archetype demand that you evaluate your relationship to power, especially with people with whom you have control issues and have to set boundaries.
Primary objective is to develop self-esteem and personal power.
You have contracts with people whose primary purpose is to help you develop yourself-esteem through acts of honesty, integrity, courage, endurance and self-respect.
The victim will entice you to feel sorry for yourself.
You can act like a victim and give in or call upon your companions and guides for help.
Like the lion in the Wizard of Oz, you need to have the courage to look at your victim and make it your ally.
Do you victimize yourself in the way you interpret conversations with other people?
Does your victim alert you to protect yourself rather than letting people take advantage of you?
Does your victim motivate you to be shrewd in the dealings of whatever house it is in?
Does your empowered victim allow you to take risks in your life?
The victim urges us to act appropriately when we are in danger of being victimized.
The victim can alert us to being victimized through passivity and rash or inappropriate actions.
It can also alert us to how we victimize others for personal gain.
In shadow it may show how we play victim for sympathy or pity.

Here is the Soul Stem Process and a few Soul Stems to work with.

The relationship that controls me the most is . . .

If I were empowered I would . . .

I need to stop focusing upon . . .

If I could, I would . . .

Enjoy the process of deepening your relationship with yourSelf!

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The Saboteur Archetype

June 2, 2016 by @candesscampbell

There is a situation in my life that may be an opportunity manifested. When manifesting though, as soon as you identify what you want or see the manifestation ahead, doubt sets in and you begin to undo that which you have been working on creating! This is what is happening for me, so I decided to revisit The Saboteur Archetype and explore what is happening at a deeper level.

I took a class from Caroline many years ago on Sacred Contracts and then taught from her book of the same name. From the information I gained from her and some of my own experiences, I came up with a list of characteristics of these archetypes. Myss explains how each of these four archetypes are like legs of a table in which we build our life. Here is some information about the Saboteur Archetype which Myss refers to as the Guardian of Choice.

Core issue of Saboteur is fear of inviting changes into your life; changes that shape and deepen your spirit

Other side of destruction is rebuilding and rebirth
Use saboteur to consciously dismantle areas of your life you need to fix or heal
Makes itself known through disruption and resistance
Is the mirror that reflects your fears of taking responsibility for yourself and what you create
You can silence the saboteur with acts of courage and following your intuition
Listen to the small voice and make choices – small ones to begin with
Shadow saboteur will play on your fears that you are not good enough to accomplish anything on your own
We are afraid that if we are enlightened we will be alone, wont’ be vulnerable, capable of sensual love, so we feed the shadow saboteur, the part of use that is fragmented
We fear empowerment because we think it will remove us from the warmth and comfort of loved ones
We fear empowerment because we don’t want to be responsible for our actions and therefore consciously or unconsciously encourage our weakness and hold onto our fears; we do want to be around others that are empowered or enlightened though
Do you sabotage your personal growth for a little comfort or does your inner saboteur alert you to stay on the Yellow Brick Road
Work with your saboteur to see where you may be doing yourself in (what are you doing you know you should not be doing and what you are not doing that you know you should be doing?
Have you blown an opportunity to follow a dream?
Saboteur is made up of the fears and issues related to low self esteem that cause you to make choices in your life that block your own empowerment and success
When you make the saboteur your ally it can call your attention to ways you might be sabotaged or sabotage yourself and then you can make other choices The intellect of the scarecrow can work with your saboteur to alert you to when you are doing yourself in

Here is the Soul Stem Process and a few Soul Stems to work with.

What scares me the most about (the manifestation) is . . .

If I walk away from this opportunity then . . .

The opportunity I regret not taking is . . .

When I say YES to this experience, I will . . .

Enjoy the process of deepening your relationship with yourSelf!

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Connecting with Loved Ones who Passed

May 30, 2016 by @candesscampbell

On this Memorial Day as I spend time with my family and reminisce about my mother and father who have passed over, I also remember the first time I connected with my mom on the other side. I was riding my recumbent bike and thinking about my granddaughter, Rachel who was just learning to walk. (She’s now 17!) I wished my mom were still alive and could see the baby who I adored so much. All of the sudden I heard my mom’s voice. She said, “honey I see her every day. I am there with you.” It was amazing. At first I was alarmed and then curious and then understood that in addition to being psychic, I could also connect with my mom on the other side.

After this experience when I was doing readings with clients, their loved ones began to show up. What a heartfelt experience to be able to be the bridge between clients and those they lost.

The most amazing experience though came when I decided to do a workshop at a local library. I knew I could do public psychic readings, but didn’t know if I could use my medium abilities in a group. I had over 100 people show up and I was a little nervous. I let the group know I was testing myself in this area. I asked if there was someone who had a loved one who passed and wanted to connect. Several people raised their hands, but one stood out to me. She was a woman who looked to be in her late 50s. I asked who it was that passed. She said it was her son. I went in and connected with him. He was telling me, “no, it wasn’t like that!” I asked her how they said he died. She said they said it was suicide. I could feel his frustration and see her despair. I went on to communicate with him and he told me how he died. As I told her, her face went from pain and despair to peace. I immediately knew that as a mental health counselor, it could take years of therapy for this woman to come to the place that took minutes with a psychic medium. I understood how important it was for me to continue to use this ability for healing.

You may be able to connect with your loved one on your own. On my website I have a PDF, 4 Ways to Develop your Clairvoyance. You will learn how to recognize your Clairaudience, Clairsentience, Claircognizance and Clairvoyance. My heart goes out to you and your loved ones.

May Astrological Forecast

May 2, 2016 by @candesscampbell

May is the time of Mother’s Day! Have a mom who has everything?

Get her an Astrological Reading from Lee at StillwatersAstro.com

and/or a Psychic Reading from Candess!

Thanks to Lee for the Monthly Astrological Report!

May 6th: New Moon in Taurus at 12:29 pm PDT. The New Moon of May in the fixed earth sign of Taurus at 16 deg 41 min is the center piece of a well grounded harmonious “Earth Trine” aspect in relationship to Jupiter in Virgo and Pluto in Capricorn.

May 9th: Jupiter stations direct in Virgo at 5:15 am PDT. Ebullient Jupiter moves forward in the sign of Virgo at 13 deg 15 min after 78 days consecutive days in retrograde.

May 20th: Sun enters Gemini at 7:37 am PDT. Communications and exchanges of information accelerate as
the Sun enters the sign of Gemini ruled by the planet Mercury opening gateways for sharing agreements, contracts, ideas and brief journeys.

May 21st: Full Moon in Gemini/Sagittarius at 2:15 pm PDT. The Full Moon of May perfects at 1 deg 14 min in a close conjunction with transiting Mars in Sagittarius within one degree of today’s Full Moon catalyzing expansive communications and interactions throughout the global village. Those with natal planets in the first 5 degrees of the mutable signs of Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, or Pisces are more likely to experience the effects of today’s Full Moon/Mars alignment up close and personal.

May 22nd: Mercury stations direct in Taurus at 6:20 am PDT. On the quicksilver heels of yesterday’s Full Moon the messenger planet moves forward in the sign of Taurus at 14 deg 20 min begin the process of restoring communications after 24 days in retrograde.

May 24th: Venus enters Gemini at 2:45 am PDT. Relationships can become fickle and unpredictable when Lady Venus enters the ambidextrous sign of Gemini within one degree of opposing her Mars counterpart in the sign of Sagittarius. Venus will complete her sojourn in Gemini on June 17th when she enters the sign of Cancer.

May 27th: Mars in retrograde returns to Scorpio after 40 days of retrograde in Sagittarius at 6:51 am PDT. Assertive Mars steps back into Scorpio and will complete his 2016 retrograde cycle on June 29th at 23 deg Scorpio after completing 74 days of retracing his steps in the combined signs of Sagittarius and Scorpio.

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Mothers are a Mixed Bag

May 1, 2016 by @candesscampbell

Spring came early this year in Spokane. It is usually around Mother’s Day that I buy the plants for my pots.

As a therapist I am too aware that Mother’s Day is a mixed bag for many. Some of us did not have great relationships with our mothers for whatever reason. As a psychic and medium, I have been able to help others reconnect with their mother after she passed and either communicate with her or understand why she did things the way that she did. I am so aware of how quickly we can loose people in our lives. My mother died expectantly at age 52. I wish I could have gotten over my “attitude” about what I didn’t get or how it should have been before she died.

In the mid 1990’s I did some deep inner work and re-mothered my inner child. Since then I have been helping clients re-mother themselves. I developed a process that I call What’s Wrong Little Girl. This of course could be changed for your inner male child. The process is below.

I wish I had accepted my mother just as she was. We all develop ways of protecting ourselves as we become shaped by our environment. Whether you become a victim, an avenger, withdrawn, or chaotic; we all do the best we can do at the time. It is as adults we have the opportunity to heal the past and be the best we can be in the here and now!

As you heal your own inner child and then re-integrate her back into your adult-Self, you are able to accept and love others, just as they are.

Enjoy the process and feel free to comment on your progress!

Journaling with your Inner Child

Write down

1. What’s Wrong Little Girl?

State the situation – Person said this, did this, etc. Respond to her by identifying her feelings.

2. I hear you were afraid, oh, you sound so sad, etc.

She responds with more information because she was heard.

3. Write more of what she has to say.

Ask her what she needs and listen!

4. She may need to go for a walk, to listen to music, take a bath, have a healthy snack.

Give her what she needs and promise her you will take care of her and DO IT!

She will learn to trust you again and soon she will integrate back into your adult Self and all will be so much better!

You can find more healing tools in my Self-Help Toolbox!

Feelings Buried Alive stay Alive

April 28, 2016 by @candesscampbell

Lately I have been working with clients around grief. What is helpful to know is that when you have a current loss, past losses surface too. It is like they attach to the current loss. Often people try to stop crying, but I encourage allowing yourself to cry and then distracting yourself for awhile and then crying again. Feelings buried alive stay alive and then you over-react to something and the buried feelings surface in an explosion. When I have grieved in the past, there have been times when I would ask a friend to come “babysit” me. It was when it was helpful to not be alone, even if I didn’t want to talk. I would also ask friends to distract me, such as getting me out to a movie, walk or shop. If you are grieving, allow your friends to help.

Kubler-Ross talks about the five stages of grief. They are Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. These can happen in that order and also happen all within one day in chaos. Anger is often the most problematic feeling. Anger is a secondary emotion that covers up pain and or fear. When you feel anger, take a moment to ask yourself “Am I in pain?” and “What am I afraid of?” When you do this you can identify the underlying feeling and are able to feel and heal the core of the anger.