Choice

What are Two Important Tools you have at all times?

The ability to Say Yes and to Say No!

There are many reasons you go on auto-pilot with an answer.

You are so busy you don’t think before you speak.
You learned from your parents to always say Yes or No.
You are a people pleaser and Yes is an easy answer, even though what you are agreeing to may be difficult.
You are overwhelmed and No is quick and simple.

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Too often in decision making, you are on auto-pilot. This keeps you from using your ability to reason and more importantly, to listen to your intuition.

On any given day you have many opportunities to make Yes and No decisions. Today I’d like to invite you to become more conscious, more deliberate about your decisions.

It helps to have a notepad or a journal with you.

Photo by Jess Watters

When you are asked to do something, STOP yourself from answering automatically.

You may respond like this.

Interesting, I’ll have to think about it.
Let me ponder that and I’ll let you know.
Great idea. Let me sleep on it.
Thanks for asking. I’ll take some time to see if it is right for me.

So often I witness people who spend a large part of their day doing what they don’t want to do and making excuses why they can’t do what they really DO want to do.

Choice is a powerful tool! The more you make conscious choices, the more empowered you become.

Even taking time for yourself to explore how often you say Yes or No seems self-indulgent. Life is precious. Choose your Quality of Life and make Empowered Decisions.

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Learn more about your own Personal Power and balancing your Third Chakra!

Two Powerful Tools! was originally published on Energy Medicine DNA

What are Two Important Tools you have at all times?

The ability to Say Yes and to Say No!

There are many reasons you go on auto-pilot with an answer.

You are so busy you don’t think before you speak.
You learned from your parents to always say Yes or No.
You are a people pleaser and Yes is an easy answer, even though what you are agreeing to may be difficult.
You are overwhelmed and No is quick and simple.

[clickToTweet tweet=”It’s your Life – Own it! https://energymedicinedna.com/energy-medicine/” quote=”It’s your Life – Own it!”]

Too often in decision making, you are on auto-pilot. This keeps you from using your ability to reason and more importantly, to listen to your intuition.

On any given day you have many opportunities to make Yes and No decisions. Today I’d like to invite you to become more conscious, more deliberate about your decisions.

It helps to have a notepad or a journal with you.

Photo by Jess Watters

When you are asked to do something, STOP yourself from answering automatically.

You may respond like this.

Interesting, I’ll have to think about it.
Let me ponder that and I’ll let you know.
Great idea. Let me sleep on it.
Thanks for asking. I’ll take some time to see if it is right for me.

So often I witness people who spend a large part of their day doing what they don’t want to do and making excuses why they can’t do what they really DO want to do.

Choice is a powerful tool! The more you make conscious choices, the more empowered you become.

Even taking time for yourself to explore how often you say Yes or No seems self-indulgent. Life is precious. Choose your Quality of Life and make Empowered Decisions.

[clickToTweet tweet=”Choice and Empowerment are Third Chakra issues. https://energymedicinedna.com/chakra-three/” quote=”Choice and Empowerment are Third Chakra issues.”]

Learn more about your own Personal Power and balancing your Third Chakra!

“You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
― C. JoyBell C.

Soon after I chose my word for 2014 – Relationships – came the resistance. I am beginning to think that resistance may be the shadow side to most of what I want to manifest.

When I teach manifesting, I have my students or clients think about and write down specifically what they want to manifest. As soon as they do this, I encourage them to then write down all the thoughts of why they can’t have this. Now, this may appear counter-productive, but the reality is, these thoughts are going to either surface consciously or subconsciously and it is better to challenge them outright.

So I’ll use my word – relationships. I have made a decision to focus on relationships this year. The thoughts that surface are these:I’ll have to slow down and make time for other people.

1. I will get hurt.
2. People will want more of me than I can give.
3. I’ll have to be present to everyone who comes into my life and I’ll get exhausted.

Now, that I have identified the immediate concerns I have, I can challenge them.

1. I’ll have to slow down and make time for other people. – In this case, yes, I will do this. I have wanted to do this for a while and I can schedule my life with more play and less work and if I don’t resist this (stress and exhaustion) then I will really enjoy playing and being more present to friends and family.

2. I will get hurt. – Just because I am spending more time in my relationships and possibly allowing an intimate relationship, I don’t have to get hurt. I can move slowly, set necessary boundaries until I am confident and feel safe. I have a lot of skills and can use them in relationship. (You will notice that my resistance here appears to come from a need to feel safe.)

3. People will want more of me than I can give. – In this situation, the fear is not related to my friends and family, but more to other people. It will be necessary for me to be discerning of where I put my time and energy. It is not like a dam breaking. I can spend time with my friends and family without opening the floodgates to everyone. (overwhelm)

4. I will have to be present to everyone who comes into my life and I will become exhausted. – In this case, becoming present is actually a way of being less exhausted. There will be people around me that I don’t have to be continually present with. I can be present with myself and focus my attention where I would like. I am in control. (exhaustion)

I hope this example demonstrates the fears that come right behind your decision to manifest. Now, you can be conscious of the fears and challenge them. The theme of this 30-day blog, is not just relationship to others, but relationship to yourself.

You are in control of your life, your choices and your future!

Evaluating your Situation!

January 16, 2013 by @candesscampbell

Into the New Year, most people have taken a look back and reflected on the past year. Some have made resolutions and some just go forward with hope. Rather than making resolutions, I pick one focus for the year, one word to remember and increase in my life.

One year the word was money and I became more responsible in my spending, saving and earnings. That year I increased my income by 25%. I read money books, brought my attention to my habits and envisioned and created abundance.

Last year my focus was on food. I watched “foody” shows on television and regularly added nutritionally healthy foods to my diet. I drank green smoothies and my body glowed from all the enzymes. I increased my awareness on how foods affect my health (and my mood!)

This year my focus is music. I have a Martin 000M and my plan is to learn to play my guitar, listen to a variety of music throughout the year, attend concerts and experience music as a healing force in my life!

Speaking of a healing force in my life. I just published my book 12 Weeks to Self-Healing: Transforming Pain through Energy Medicine.

The first chapter focuses on Evaluating Your Situation. Whether it is emotional or physical pain, there is always an emotional component. I find that when people tend to focus on the past, they suffer from depression and when they focus on the future, it creates anxiety. On my website candesscampbell.com under Books and Self-Healing Tools you will find self-screening tests. One is for depression and the other for anxiety. If you find that you struggle with either of these, getting professional help is important.

Sometimes you live your life day to day without much self-awareness. It is helpful to look at whether or not you are getting your needs met. William Glasser, MD, a psychiatrist wrote a book called Choice Theory. In the book he talked about people having Four Basic Needs. The needs he lists are for 1) Love & Belonging, 2) Power and Worth, 3) Freedom and 4) Fun. These are beyond your need for survival.

Think about your life and what the main need is in your life. In your journal, write down your main need. Then write down friends and family you spend most of your time with. List some activities you engage in on a regular basis. Are you getting your needs met with these friends, family members and your activities?

For example I list as one of my loved ones, my Cairn Terrior/mix Domingo. The needs I get met by Domingo are Love and Belonging and Fun. When I image an oval shape and think about how full I am from my relationship with Domingo, I see the oval being maybe a third full. This means I need more people and activities to get my Love and Belonging and Fun needs met.

When I first did this exercise I listed out my friends. A few of the friends I spent most of my time with did not meet my needs at all. I found one friend met most of my needs. I realized I leaned too much on one friend and needed to create more relationships in my life where I felt more alive, full, and got my needs met. I also realized I needed to let some friends go. With self-awareness, I saw how drained I became after spending time with some friends.

Try this yourself. You may be amazed at how simple changes in your life can shift your emotional for physical pain!

Also, in evaluating your situation, it is important to look at the interrelatedness between your thoughts, feelings and behaviors. You can find a Total Behavior Map here to help you. http://candesscampbell.com/books/self-help-tools/70-2) On this map you can write out in the center what need you want to get met. Write down a situation that has been difficult for you regarding this need. List what you were doing, thinking and feeling. Then write again as if you were thinking something different. If you were thinking ___________, then what would you be doing or feeling?

You are an integrated being of Mind, Body and Spirit. You will notice that when you change your thinking about a situation, your feeling changes as well. You may choose to do something different and immediately your thinking changes and your feeling changes. The key here is you have 100 % control over your doing, 90 % control over your thinking and only 10 % control over your feeling. When you do or think something different – you feel better!

An example is Sarah was waiting for a phone call from Taylor to go out to dinner. (love and belonging and fun) Taylor didn’t call and Sarah thought, “I was stood up.” She started feeling angry and lost energy. Sarah began making up stories in her mind of what happened and worked herself into a frenzy.

An hour later Taylor called and said she was so sorry. She explained that she had witnessed an accident on the freeway and was pulled in by the police to share what she had seen. Taylor said she was so shaken, she didn’t even think about the dinner plans until she calmed down and realized she was hungry. She asked Sarah if she could come over, she needed a friend.

Sarah began to understand (thinking) and she empathized (feeling) with Taylor’s experience. She began cooking (doing) something to share with Taylor and prepared for her friend to arrive.

Can you see how the feelings followed the doing and thinking in this situation? You can write out some situations in your past, some times when you were really upset. Then write out what you could have done or thought differently, identifying how you would feel different.

Use your journal for this exercise and soon you’ll find you can do it quickly in your mind. So much of the emotional pain (which is under the physical pain) is manufactured in your mind. Now, you have a tool to change this!

Another tool is journaling. One situation I share in my book is for several days I found myself having a lot of pain in my shoulders. I left my office and sat down to rest and the pain was extremely disturbing. After about four days of this, I picked up my journal and began writing, “This pain in my shoulders. . .” and continued journaling for 20 minutes. What came up in my writing was a situation with one of my daughters. Once I wrote it out, the pain released immediately and was totally gone. This is a true testimony to how we carry pain in our bodies connected to our emotions!

There is so much more you can find in the book that will help you evaluate where you are and begin to move into self-healing. In February I’ll focus on Finding Your Passion!

12 Weeks to Self-Healing: Transforming Pain through Energy Medicine – UK

http://www.amazon.co.uk/12-Weeks-Self-Healing-Transforming-Medicine/dp/0615693822/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top

12 Weeks to Self-Healing: Transforming Pain through Energy Medicine – US

http://www.amazon.com/12-Weeks-Self-Healing-Transforming-Medicine/dp/0615693822/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1355705809&sr=8-1&keywords=candess+campbell

What are Two Important Tools you have at all times?

The ability to Say Yes and to Say No!

There are many reasons you go on auto-pilot with an answer.

You are so busy you don’t think before you speak.

You learned from your parents to always say Yes or No.

You are a people pleaser and Yes is an easy answer, even though what you are agreeing to may be difficult.

You are overwhelmed and No is quick and simple.

Too often in decision making, you are on auto-pilot. This keeps you from using your ability to reason and more importantly, to listen to your intuition.

On any given day you have many opportunities to make Yes and No decisions. Today I’d like to invite you to become more conscious, more deliberate about your decisions.

It helps to have a notepad or a journal with you.

When you are asked to do something, STOP yourself from answering automatically.

You may respond like this.

Interesting, I’ll have to think about it.

Let me ponder that and I’ll let you know.

Great idea. Let me sleep on it.

Thanks for asking. I’ll take some time to see if it is right for me.

So often I witness people who spend a large part of their day doing what they don’t want to do and making excuses why they can’t do what they really DO want to do.

Choice is a powerful tool! The more you make conscious choices, the more empowered you become.

Even taking time for yourself to explore how often you say Yes or No seems self-indulgent. Life is precious. Choose your Quality of Life and make Empowered Decisions.

What are Two Important Tools you have at all times?

The ability to Say Yes and to Say No!

There are many reasons you go on auto-pilot with an answer.

You are so busy you don’t think before you speak.

You learned from your parents to always say Yes or No.

You are a people pleaser and Yes is an easy answer, even though what you are agreeing to may be difficult.

You are overwhelmed and No is quick and simple.

[clickToTweet tweet=”It’s your Life – Own it! https://energymedicinedna.com/energy-medicine/” quote=”It’s your Life – Own it!”]

Too often in decision making, you are on auto-pilot. This keeps you from using your ability to reason and more importantly, to listen to your intuition.

On any given day you have many opportunities to make Yes and No decisions. Today I’d like to invite you to become more conscious, more deliberate about your decisions.

It helps to have a notepad or a journal with you.

When you are asked to do something, STOP yourself from answering automatically.

You may respond like this.

Interesting, I’ll have to think about it.

Let me ponder that and I’ll let you know.

Great idea. Let me sleep on it.

Thanks for asking. I’ll take some time to see if it is right for me.

So often I witness people who spend a large part of their day doing what they don’t want to do and making excuses why they can’t do what they really DO want to do.

Choice is a powerful tool! The more you make conscious choices, the more empowered you become.

Even taking time for yourself to explore how often you say Yes or No seems self-indulgent. Life is precious. Choose your Quality of Life and make Empowered Decisions.

[clickToTweet tweet=”Choice and Empowerment are Third Chakra issues. https://energymedicinedna.com/chakra-three/” quote=”Choice and Empowerment are Third Chakra issues.”]