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What are Two Important Tools you have at all times?

The ability to Say Yes and to Say No!

There are many reasons you go on auto-pilot with an answer.

You are so busy you don’t think before you speak.
You learned from your parents to always say Yes or No.
You are a people pleaser and Yes is an easy answer, even though what you are agreeing to may be difficult.
You are overwhelmed and No is quick and simple.

It’s your Life – Own it!Click To Tweet

Too often in decision making, you are on auto-pilot. This keeps you from using your ability to reason and more importantly, to listen to your intuition.

On any given day you have many opportunities to make Yes and No decisions. Today I’d like to invite you to become more conscious, more deliberate about your decisions.

It helps to have a notepad or a journal with you.

Photo by Jess Watters

When you are asked to do something, STOP yourself from answering automatically.

You may respond like this.

Interesting, I’ll have to think about it.
Let me ponder that and I’ll let you know.
Great idea. Let me sleep on it.
Thanks for asking. I’ll take some time to see if it is right for me.

So often I witness people who spend a large part of their day doing what they don’t want to do and making excuses why they can’t do what they really DO want to do.

Choice is a powerful tool! The more you make conscious choices, the more empowered you become.

Even taking time for yourself to explore how often you say Yes or No seems self-indulgent. Life is precious. Choose your Quality of Life and make Empowered Decisions.

Choice and Empowerment are Third Chakra issues.Click To Tweet

Learn more about your own Personal Power and balancing your Third Chakra!

Two Powerful Tools! was originally published on Energy Medicine DNA

What are Two Important Tools you have at all times?

The ability to Say Yes and to Say No!

There are many reasons you go on auto-pilot with an answer.

You are so busy you don’t think before you speak.
You learned from your parents to always say Yes or No.
You are a people pleaser and Yes is an easy answer, even though what you are agreeing to may be difficult.
You are overwhelmed and No is quick and simple.

[clickToTweet tweet=”It’s your Life – Own it! https://energymedicinedna.com/energy-medicine/” quote=”It’s your Life – Own it!”]

Too often in decision making, you are on auto-pilot. This keeps you from using your ability to reason and more importantly, to listen to your intuition.

On any given day you have many opportunities to make Yes and No decisions. Today I’d like to invite you to become more conscious, more deliberate about your decisions.

It helps to have a notepad or a journal with you.

Photo by Jess Watters

When you are asked to do something, STOP yourself from answering automatically.

You may respond like this.

Interesting, I’ll have to think about it.
Let me ponder that and I’ll let you know.
Great idea. Let me sleep on it.
Thanks for asking. I’ll take some time to see if it is right for me.

So often I witness people who spend a large part of their day doing what they don’t want to do and making excuses why they can’t do what they really DO want to do.

Choice is a powerful tool! The more you make conscious choices, the more empowered you become.

Even taking time for yourself to explore how often you say Yes or No seems self-indulgent. Life is precious. Choose your Quality of Life and make Empowered Decisions.

[clickToTweet tweet=”Choice and Empowerment are Third Chakra issues. https://energymedicinedna.com/chakra-three/” quote=”Choice and Empowerment are Third Chakra issues.”]

Learn more about your own Personal Power and balancing your Third Chakra!

Collapsed, Rigid or Healthy Boundaries

January 13, 2014 by @candesscampbell

“No” is a complete sentence.” ― Anne Lamott

Entering into the New Year, we find ourselves playing more, exercising and getting fit, eating better, spending time with old friends, and meeting new friends. Often though with amazing technology we also connect through our phones and computers, using social networking sites such as Facebook, Twitter and dating sites.

In my mental health counseling office, recently a client shared with me she saw her boyfriend change his relationship status on Facebook from single to being in relationship with another woman. A different client shared she couldn’t create a separate email from her husband because he checked her phone everyday to see who she texted and emailed.

A woman I know met a man on line and fell in love. They talked on the phone and Skyped for months and then he had a crisis and needed some financial support. She sent him money and didn’t hear from him again.

These situations lead me to reflect on the impact technology has on boundaries. It appears there is an intimacy created online that is not grounded in reality. Take this opportunity to assess your own boundaries.

Do you have rigid, collapsed or healthy boundaries?

Are you more likely to allow others to cross your boundaries or do you cross others boundaries?

Do you find you get too close to people physically and you see them back away?

Do you find yourself alone in a corner in a group and not reaching out to others?

Note that the way you set your boundaries changes over time. You also may behave differently depending on the situation and how you feel at the time. This is a general guideline you can use.

Collapsed Boundaries can be identified by:

Sharing too much personal information too soon.
Saying yes when you want to say no for fear of rejection.
Doing anything to avoid conflict.
Having a high tolerance for abuse.

Rigid Boundaries can be identified by:

Saying no to a request if it will involve close interaction.
Staying so busy you don’t take time for intimate relationships.
Being unable to identify you own feelings, wants or needs.
Making little self-disclosure and holding people at a distance.

Healthy Boundaries can be identified by:

Having the ability to say yes and to say no.
Being able to hear no from others and seek other resources to get your needs met.
You reveal information about yourself gradually and self-disclose appropriately.
You have relationships with shared responsibility for the relationship without blaming.

Check out the detailed Boundary Self-Assessment.

What are Two Important Tools you have at all times?

The ability to Say Yes and to Say No!

There are many reasons you go on auto-pilot with an answer.

You are so busy you don’t think before you speak.

You learned from your parents to always say Yes or No.

You are a people pleaser and Yes is an easy answer, even though what you are agreeing to may be difficult.

You are overwhelmed and No is quick and simple.

It’s your Life – Own it!Click To Tweet

Too often in decision making, you are on auto-pilot. This keeps you from using your ability to reason and more importantly, to listen to your intuition.

On any given day you have many opportunities to make Yes and No decisions. Today I’d like to invite you to become more conscious, more deliberate about your decisions.

It helps to have a notepad or a journal with you.

When you are asked to do something, STOP yourself from answering automatically.

You may respond like this.

Interesting, I’ll have to think about it.

Let me ponder that and I’ll let you know.

Great idea. Let me sleep on it.

Thanks for asking. I’ll take some time to see if it is right for me.

So often I witness people who spend a large part of their day doing what they don’t want to do and making excuses why they can’t do what they really DO want to do.

Choice is a powerful tool! The more you make conscious choices, the more empowered you become.

Even taking time for yourself to explore how often you say Yes or No seems self-indulgent. Life is precious. Choose your Quality of Life and make Empowered Decisions.

Choice and Empowerment are Third Chakra issues.Click To Tweet

Learn more about your own Personal Power and balancing your Third Chakra!

What are Two Important Tools you have at all times?

The ability to Say Yes and to Say No!

There are many reasons you go on auto-pilot with an answer.

You are so busy you don’t think before you speak.

You learned from your parents to always say Yes or No.

You are a people pleaser and Yes is an easy answer, even though what you are agreeing to may be difficult.

You are overwhelmed and No is quick and simple.

[clickToTweet tweet=”It’s your Life – Own it! https://energymedicinedna.com/energy-medicine/” quote=”It’s your Life – Own it!”]

Too often in decision making, you are on auto-pilot. This keeps you from using your ability to reason and more importantly, to listen to your intuition.

On any given day you have many opportunities to make Yes and No decisions. Today I’d like to invite you to become more conscious, more deliberate about your decisions.

It helps to have a notepad or a journal with you.

When you are asked to do something, STOP yourself from answering automatically.

You may respond like this.

Interesting, I’ll have to think about it.

Let me ponder that and I’ll let you know.

Great idea. Let me sleep on it.

Thanks for asking. I’ll take some time to see if it is right for me.

So often I witness people who spend a large part of their day doing what they don’t want to do and making excuses why they can’t do what they really DO want to do.

Choice is a powerful tool! The more you make conscious choices, the more empowered you become.

Even taking time for yourself to explore how often you say Yes or No seems self-indulgent. Life is precious. Choose your Quality of Life and make Empowered Decisions.

[clickToTweet tweet=”Choice and Empowerment are Third Chakra issues. https://energymedicinedna.com/chakra-three/” quote=”Choice and Empowerment are Third Chakra issues.”]

Learn more about your own Personal Power and balancing your Third Chakra!